真是不容易的情懷!

一名署名約翰衛斯理的人寫了這樣一個故事。

一對夫婦在婚後十一年生了一個男孩，
夫妻恩愛，男孩自然是二人的寶。

男孩兩歲的某一天，
丈夫在出門上班之際，
看到桌上有一藥瓶打開了，
不過因為趕時間，
他只揚聲妻子把藥瓶收好，
然後就關上門上班去。

妻子在廚房忙得團團轉，
就忘了丈夫的叮囑。

男孩拿藥瓶，
覺得好奇、又被藥水的顏色所吸引，
於是一飲而盡。

藥水成份厲害，
即使成人服用也只能用少量。

男孩OD（Overdose服藥過量），
被送到醫院後，返魂乏術。
妻子被事實嚇呆了，不知如何面對丈夫。

緊張的父親趕到醫院，
得知噩耗非常傷心，看兒子的屍體，
望了妻子一眼，然後說了四個字。

作者叫讀者猜，
這丈夫說了四個甚麼字？


答案是：
「I love you, darling!」

這反應是 Proactive 的
（即反過來控制局面，而不被局面控制）。

作者亦盛讚這丈夫是人類關係的天才，
因為兒子的死已成事實，
再吵再罵也不會改變事實，
只惹來更多的傷心，
而且不只自己失去兒子，
妻子也失去兒子。


這故事，
彰顯人類選擇的自我層次 ，

同一件不幸事你可以怨天尤人，
痛罵社會，甚至自責無窮，
但事情卻不因這些而改變，
這一切只改變了你和日後的生活，
負著疤痕的活下去。

反之，
放下怨恨和懼怕，
放下過去，勇敢的活下去，
事情的境況原來並不如想像中壞，
這就是作者所說的
Proactive Behavior，
也就是我們所說的由人轉境 ，
而不是被外界事物牽著走 。


很簡短的故事，
但是，有多少人能做到呢？
當我看到那句
' I love you, darling! '
的時候，
心中感概萬千......


多麼簡單的一句話，
但要有多久的修練，
多大的包容，多深的人生智慧，
才能在那種時刻
說出如此令人動容的一句話。

每個人都有不想讓人所知的不幸事，
自己選擇了什麼方式去面對，
又怎麼去面對未來，以及週邊的人事物...


與你分享
也祝福順心喜樂！

1.
遇到你真的愛的人時努力爭取和他相伴一生的機會!因為當他離去時.一切都來不及了....
2.
遇到可相信的朋友時要好好和他相處下去因為在人的一生中.可遇到知己真的不易
3.
遇到人生中的貴人時要記得好好感激因為他是你人生的轉折點
4.
遇到曾經愛過的人時記得微笑向他感激因為他是讓你更懂愛的人
5.
遇到曾經恨過的人時要微笑向他打招呼因為他讓你更加堅強
6.
遇到曾經背叛你的人時要跟他好好聊一聊因為若不是他今天你不會懂這世界
7.
遇到曾經偷偷喜歡的人時要祝他幸福唷!因為你喜歡他時.不是希望他幸福快樂嗎？
8.
遇到匆匆離開你人生的人時要謝謝他走過你的人生因為他是你精采回憶的一部分
9.
遇到曾經和你有誤會的人時要趁現在澄清誤會因為你可能只有這一次機會解釋清楚
10.
遇到現在的伴侶要百分百感謝他因為你們現在都得到幸福和真愛
愛你

My Lunar Birthday

For this year, I had make three wishes .( For my family ,study and myself ) .I hope my wishes will be granted!!! This year I will have my western birthday maybe @ other place but I hope it will be also a memorable birthday. Thanks for my mom and dad for what they have done from I was born.

The Boy And The Apple Tree

A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. It love a boy very much ,the boy loves to come and play around it everyday .[by making a crown using the leaves collected and pretend like himself was the king of the forest.Beside that he also like to climb the tree , ate the apples, play hide and seek around it and take a nap under the shadow] So he loved the tree so much and the tree was happy.

Time went by ..........
One day, the boy came back to the tree and the tree asked the boy to play around it but the boy rejected it by saying that he is no longer a kid and telling the tree that he wish to have a lot of money to buy himself a toy. The tree let the boy to grab all the apples and sell them all to get money. Then the boy leaves happily . The tree was also happy. The boy did came back to the tree for the next few times in between a long period but only came back for asking help. Tree help him with sincerely and put on many effort to solve his problem. [By letting the boy to chop off its branches to build his house when the boy was a man, use its trunk to build a boat for sailing when he turned to an old man]The tree did all this effort just to let the boy happy and the tree looked happy but it was not true.
The tree is now left dying roots and the boy came back for the last time. The tree have nothing to give him anymore and the boy also no need much now but a place to rest.[because he is now old and tired]. So, the tree let the old man to lean and rest on the dying root. Finally ,the old man sat down.The tree was glad and smiles with tears. ( Maybe because of the old man finally can accompany the tree and not asking for help and still remember that the tree is the best place to lay on.)

What I want to share and tell was everyone has their own apple tree that is your parents!

ACCEPT THE PAIN AND GET READY FOR SUCCESS^-^

Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world.
If you compare , you are insulting yourself.

No one will manufacture a lock without a key.
Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.

Life laughs at you when you are unhappy..........
Life smiles at you when you are happy..........
Life salutes you when you make others happy..........

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.
It is easier to protect your feet with slippers
than to cover the earth with carpet.

No one can go back and change a bad beginning;
But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.

If a problem can be solved ,
no need to worry about it.
If a problem cannot be solved
what is the use of worrying ?

If you miss an opportunity
don't fill the eyes with tears.
It will hide another better opportunity infront of you.

" Changing the Face " can change nothing .
But " Facing the Change " can change everything.
Don't complain about others ;
Change yourself if you want peace.

Mistakes are painful when they happen .
But year's later collection of
mistakes is called experience,
which leads to success.

Be bold when you loose
and be calm when you win.

Heated gold becomes ornament.
Beaten copper becomes wires.
Depleted stone becomes statue.
so the more pain you get in life you
become more valuable.

Every successful person has a
painful story.
Every painful story has a
successful ending.

Accept the pain and get ready for success!

Chinese.New.Year.Of.2009

This is the picture we take @ Yi Ling's house.